Wednesday, April 2, 2014

What is on my Mind today?!

Today/this Moment I am thinking about: Love

When I say Love I mean Real Love, at least what I consider Real Love. We and by we, I mean women have been taught a different story/definition of love.  I'm not saying that guys have it all figured out because Lord knows that is so not true. But we girls are taught consciously and most definitely unconsciously at a very early age to dream about that man who will come along and make it all alright.  And you better get him to kiss you awake before you are too old.  While boys are taught to sow those wild oats before settling down and no worries about having babies because men can make babies forever.  Sidebar: Don’t believe the hype boys.  
Unfortunately so many folks, of both genders, have no idea what Love is.  Eyes have been clouded and in some cases just plain poked out.  The worst part about this thing called Love is: Folks don't even realize they can drop their old, borrowed ideas/notions/philosophies and make new ones; ones that fit their heart and lives.  Life is too short to keep working someone else's plan and beliefs.  
So I guess this is the part where I share what Love is to me – ugh!  Rather than say what Love is NOT I will play fair and allow you a peek into my brain and heart.  One of my favorite sayings about L-O-V-E goes something like: loving in such a way your partner feels free.  I know it sounds real cutesy but imagine if we could do that.  

No strangling someone with your love, no making them feel guilty because they owe you their love for some crazy-ass reason, no jealously, no worrying when they walk out the door, not easy but all that stuff I just typed is way too much for me and I do not participate in that kind of behavior aka drama.  Sure we all get jealous sometimes but that kind of emotion should NOT be the basis of your relationship.  I’ve never thought jealousy was cute. Some people do. Not me.

So to get specific on what Love is to me here we go: creating a space between two people where each person can be themselves, speak their truths and I don’t mean share all your shit because I have found that most folks mistake sharing all their shit with intimacy, a little FYI: it is not the same. Loving someone means wanting the best for your partner – realizing that as they rise you rise.  No holding anyone back.

I believe when you are in love with & love someone you and your love should help them be the best they can be and they should be doing the same for you.  Romantic Love is okay but it is not lasting.  Romance comes and goes during any relationship so you have to have that Real Love to see you through when you are looking at him with your head tilted and asking yourself: Why am I with him? Oh yeah I love him. Real Love him.

In order to get Real Love for another person first and foremost you have to Love yourself.  If you can’t do this how can, you love anyone? You have to love your stuff.

And know the difference between romance and steady Love.

And most important to me: Love should not be mediocre – oh hell no! 

You can have passionate love and live in the real world – you know that place where bills have to be paid and kids have to be raised. You just have to work at it.  No one is coming to sweep you off your feet.  Besides who wants to live in the clouds? Not me.

Okay that’s all I got!

Peace, Love & Light to you all as we all search for the Love that is best for each of us…


Saturday, January 11, 2014

Going back to cash and writing checks

I've been thinking about going back to cash, which will be a major adjustment b/c I do NOT carry actual money. I usually whip out my bank Visa/debit card without even thinking about it, which leads to me buying stuff I don't really need so I don't 'just' charge $2.00, but with the Target debacle and the for sure many more breaches to come, cash is looking better each day as well as actually writing a check. Right now I write only one for sure check a month = rent. I'm already envisioning the reaction when I say 'Do you have a pen so I can fill out this check?'

I'm sure the young adult behind the register will look at me like I am speaking another language = Old Folks Level 2, which I am very familiar with especially after going into Walgreens a few weeks ago and putting an old film cartridge I found on the counter (see photo below). The young man was visually stunned and said, 'What is that?' I was like okay, okay I get it, you probably don't see these that often. He informed me he had never seen whatever that was and he proceeded to call over the dept manager who was completely gobsmacked by this foreign object in front of him.

Now that I think about it, trying to get my OLD SCHOOL film cartridge developed has prepared me for the looks I will receive when I go back to writing checks.

PS I found a place that develops 'what-is-that' film cartridges and of course I have to mail it to them and wait for my pictures to arrive back via the USPS. Thank God the USPS has not been privatized, which will inevitably raise prices or I might never find out what is on that cartridge.

PPS The film cartridges below are not my actual cartridges. Mine are in better shape.